Advanced Leaning Back – Your Inner Circle

As an Advanced Leaning Back Woman,
You need to make time
to practice your Leaning Back Skills.

(“Advanced Leaning Back Skills”
simply means that you’re  . . .
experiencing your feminine energy
on a daily basis
out in the world

with other people.)

Your Advanced Leaning Back Skills include:


Positive Masculine Energy

Receiving and Responding


Experiencing the moment

Letting go of the outcome



But, if Leaning Back still feels difficult for you

(or if you find that you keep slipping back into your masculine & leaning forward habits),

then I invite you to consider the following:

Who do you spend most of your time with?

Are you surrounded by powerful, feminine, irresistible women?

Do the people you spend most of your time with have a positive impact on your feminine energy?

This is important because

These folks influence you.

They impact how you spend your time
(and how you DON’T spend your time).

They’re a part of your environment.

They are your inner circle!

Why Your Inner Circle of People Matters

I’m not suggesting that you distance yourself from your
BUT I am pointing out that if they’re unaware/unsupportive of your feminine energy lifestyle, then you need to spend time with people who you can practice your Advanced Leaning Back Skills around on a daily basis.

Note – This is NOT about judging the people in your life . . .
It’s about taking your Leaning Back practices seriously.

You’re here (reading this blog) because you’re making improvements in your love, life, experiences and relationships.

Honor yourself, your time and your efforts by giving it your all –
Give your Leaning Back practices 100%
Leaning Back 100%

While you can always practice your Advanced Leaning Back skills around strangers, you still want to avoid daily negative influences that can distract you from your ultimate goal.

You can’t hang around ugly personalities all the time and expect to have a beautiful life. And you can’t be an Advanced Leaning Back Woman if your don’t PRACTICE Leaning Back!

Consider the following advice:

“It’s a fact of life that some people hold us back, while other propel us forward. That’s just the way it is, so you might as well accept it and learn how to deal with it instead of wishing that reality was different.  For instance, you can’t hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive life.  More importantly, if you do all the right things, but don’t get around people who hold you to a higher standard, then you are more likely to fail.  The lesson here is to actively construct your social environment. Don’t let it depend on proximity or chance or on how it has always been, but consciously plan which opinions, attitudes and life-philosophies you do and do not allow to be in your life.”

The people you need in your life –

Leaning Back - Positive Influences your tribe


ADVANCED LEANING BACK SKILLS practice – Consider the following visualization, affirmation and exploration as you work on your Positive influences



Leaning Back - Good Influences only


Leaning Back - I AM Positive



How to upgrade your circle of influence
– “1. Identify specific people (or type of people) that you admire.2. Find out what is important to them.3. Figure out a way to support them. 4. Take action. Connect with them regularly.5. Expect nothing in return. Simply nurture the relationship.”

Choose your counsel wisely –
“I choose to create a space on social media and in my daily life that involves positive, real, grateful and uplifting people. It’s my choice. And it’s OK. In a previous blog post, I wrote about the importance of unsubscribing from negative, demoralizing and demeaning people in your life. I challenged you to do a peer inventory.”

Be aware of the people around you –
“A key aspect to living the life you want is to have an awareness of how the people around you influence your life. And then, to make conscious choices about who you spend time with. But this is not just about others, the journey starts with you! First, before you decide who you spend time with, you need to get to know yourself a little more deeply. Ask yourself what do you want to achieve in life and most importantly, why this matters to you. Write it down as clearly and succinctly as you can. There’s been quite a bit of talk recently about the importance of “finding your why”, and I don’t want to repeat it all here, only to say that it’s important to have a clear understanding of this before you work out who will support you in achieving what’s important to you.”

Who’s affecting your life? –
“It’s human nature to crave a sense of belonging, to feel like we’re a part of something. And it’s so important to have that positivity in your life. The people you surround yourself with have this incredible power to change your life. They affect your mood, your motivation, and your ultimate success. People around you can also have a have a significant impact on your health and longevity of your life!” (from “finding-your-tribe-how-the-people-around-you-influence-you”)

Who’s influencing your love-life? –
“Outside influence shows up in our lives in many areas; who to spend holidays with, where to live, what car to drive, what to do about daily decisions, how often to spend time with particular friends/family members. There is always going to be at least one person in your life that is trying to influence you.” (from “Are-Others-interfering-in-Your-Relationship”)

Love Influences –
“Keep in mind that as much as you’re under the influence of your partner, your partner is under your influence as well. So use your power wisely, and choose a partner who already is what you need and are looking for, so that you can devote your energy to enjoying your time together, rather than trying to change that person into someone else.”



Ten Advanced Leaning Back Perspectives:

  1. Awareness
  2. Positive Masculine Energy
  3. Receive & Respond
  4. Be a Girl (Softness)
  5. Feel the Moment
  6. Let go of the Outcome
  7. Movement Keeps you Unstuck
  8. Passion/Vision/Hobby/Cause
  9. Me Time (Self-Empowerment) and
  10. Positive Influences (your Tribe)

I hope you’ve enjoyed this Advanced Leaning Back Series. If you want to go more in depth with your personal leaning back practices, then feel free to schedule a 90 minute coaching session with me.





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