Expressing Appreciation To A Man

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Expressing Your Appreciation To A Man Draws Him Closer To You


Want to draw him closer?

Want to attract a “good guy?”

If so, then change your negative perceptions about men.

Stop talking negatively to and about men.

Men are drawn by a woman’s warmth and softness.

He may be turned on by your bitchiness, but it does not draw him to you emotionally!



Make a list of what you appreciate about him, what he does that makes you feel good and the positive things that he makes you feel.

Use your Feeling Messages to let your man (or men you interact with)  know what it is you appreciate about him.

Tell him what he does that you like and that you appreciate it!

If you aren’t seeing anyone right now, then practice this tool with the men you interact with.




If you’re angry or upset with a man, you might not feel like saying anything appreciative to him.  But ask yourself  – do you want to end things with him? Cut him out of your dating rotation? Move on to another relationship? Get a divorce?  End the relationship?  If not, take these steps:

1. Lean Back

2. Let go of the urge to make him do anything

3. Let go of the urge to make anything happen involving him

4. Just respond to him with feeling messages

5. If an argument starts then step back and walk away – don’t say anything negative about him at all – you can say “I don’t want to be here right now.”

6. Take some time to do something that you enjoy and that makes you feel good.

7.  Now, make a list of what you like about men, what men do that you enjoy and what men do to make you feel good.

8.  Now, add the things that the man you are upset with does that you enjoy and that makes you feel good.

9.  Now add what you like about the man you are upset with.

10. Read over your entire list and put a heart next to the anything you appreciate.

11.  The next time you speak with him, let him know what you appreciate, either about him, or men in general.















  1. liz on December 21, 2014 at 11:56 am

    Hello. Tatia
    I’m be married

    • Tatia on December 22, 2014 at 9:01 pm

      Hi Liz:




  2. A on August 23, 2016 at 6:45 pm

    Hi Tatia! Loving all of your posts. I’m in a relationship with a good man, we’ve been together about 11 months. The past few months I’ve found myself caught up in a cycle of combative masculine energy with him and it’s just been a straight up battle. Ever since learning about the concept of leaning back, he’s been so attentive, romantic, thoughtful. It’s night and day! He’s reaching out to please me. I’m no longer chasing him with unsolicited affirmations of love. I thought this would make him feel less attached to me. But it’s been the opposite! I have to remind myself that he experiences love differently than me. He gets romance from a different spot, of being a provider. Thank you for saving my relationship (and sanity!!)

    • Tatia on August 27, 2016 at 10:07 am

      Hi A:

      Isn’t it beautiful how quickly and powerfully leaning back helps the connection between you?
      I felt so awesome reading your post.
      Thank you for sharing!
      Wishing you continuous love and happiness.


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