Are You Smothering Him?

needyDo You Find Yourself Longing For A Man?

Are you always talking about him to your friends and family?

Is your day filled with thoughts of him and your relationship?

Do you want to spend every possible minute with him?

Whether you verbalize these things to him or not, a man can sense this intense focusing energy.

It’s a smothering energy that you can’t hide.

You see, the problem is that a man interprets this focusing so intensely on him as your being “needy.”

“Needy” is different than making a man feel needed, wanted and appreciated.

This needy energy makes a man feel uneasy, nervous and smothered.

And he responds like a deer in headlights . . . Suddenly, he wants space and starts to pull away.

He feels the heat of your focus on him and wants to bolt!

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And then, when you notice a change in him, you feel confused, rejected, pushed aside, ignored or hurt . . . which only makes you feel more intense . . . which he again interprets as needy.  It can be a never-ending cycle.

So, let’s reverse this.

Let’s change your focus and keep him feeling attracted to you!

The key is to re-direct any intensity you’re experiencing AWAY from him!

Instead of always thinking about him, focus that intensity onto the things that make you happy.

FIRST: WIDEN YOUR VIEW

See beyond your relationship.

When he’s not there with you face to face, don’t focus on him or your relationship.

Shift your focus to yourself and the things you enjoy.

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NEXT: RECEIVE AND RESPOND

Get sensually into each moment you’re together.

Experience your femininity in his presence.

This is the space to be and feel connected with him.

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THEN: USE FEELING WORDS

Speak your good feelings to him.

Express what he does that feels good to you.

Let him know you appreciate that he makes you feel that way.

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YOUR LOVE BALANCE

When he’s not with you, you’re enjoying yourself and doing things that make you happy.

When he’s with you, you’re enjoying his attention and responding with warmth and good feeling words.

Keep this balance and he’ll stay attracted.

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If you want to go more in depth with your personal leaning back practices, then feel free to schedule a 90 minute coaching session with me.

Love,

Tatia

 

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