Being Seductive (Rather than seducing him)

irresistible woman leaning back being seductiveLeaning Back is about “being” rather than “doing.”

If you’ve been reading my blogs, newsletters and watching my webinars and videos, then you’ve heard this before.

But HOW do you let a man know you’re interested/wanting him/loving him if you can’t DO ANYTHING???

Okay, let me give you an example . . . 



– Lean back (literally)

Instead of initiating the situation, create a sensual environment . . . whether that means wearing lingerie, perfume, makeup, lighting candles, playing soft music (you get the idea) – this qualifies as BEING (not doing). 

– smile & hold eye contact

Instead of suggesting, demanding, or otherwise taking control of the situation, GAZE at him (while you silently entertain all of those lascivious ideas)

– stay in the moment

Instead of pondering “where this is going” or “what this means,” enjoy the moment – here and now, and quiet all of those thoughts (that would certainly push him away if you uttered them)

– be genuine

Keep it real!  If he’s not treating you well (or disappearing) then focus on what’s good between you without ignoring the boundaries that feel right to you – (meaning – only let things go as far as you can emotionally handle it)

– non-verbal communication (sound, touch)

If he’s not getting the message, you can hum, sing, caress, take deep relaxing breaths, stretchhhhhhh like a cat and recline a bit (all with a dash of sensuality) 

– express appreciation/compliment

“Mmmmmmmm, I just love the way that cologne smells on you.  You smell delicious.”

– 2nd level listening

If he’s still talking or not otherwise getting the idea, then don’t get upset or uptight . . . tune in to him – pay close attention to him while he’s speaking (make eye contact, take him in – looking at him and HEAR him instead of thinking of what to say to him)

– share your passion story

In case he really just wants to talk, then lean back into your chair and share a passion story with him, and be sure to use your poetry words.

seduction - lean back smile hold eye contact stay in the moment be genuine non-verbal communication appreciation compliment him 2nd level listening passion story poetry words texting

“. . . let lips do what hands do . . .”
Romeo and Juliet, William Shakespeare







leaning back to trigger his emotional desire


Create a Safe Space for Him to Focus on You and the Relationship . . .

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  1. Spirit Butterfly on March 19, 2019 at 12:36 pm

    Thank you Tatia, for helping us remember the sensual, powerful, Goddesses we truly are.. You have a fan for life! 💚

  2. Tatia on March 20, 2019 at 9:15 pm

    Awwwww! Thank you Spirit Butterfly!
    Yes indeed, we must stay connected to that sensual feminine energy power!!!

  3. Arlet on June 29, 2020 at 3:03 am

    Tatia, I just found your blog and I am completely blown away by the vast amount of absolutely golden content you have on here! Amazing! Thank you so much! I will enroll in your academy so I can learn even more about these lovely topics and so I can support your work. Tons of love!

    • Tatia on June 30, 2020 at 12:45 am

      Hi Arlet:

      Thank you for your heart-warming comment!
      Enjoy the Academy and feel free to email me with any questions or comments.

      Love love love

  4. Marisa on October 27, 2022 at 4:04 pm

    Thank you sooo very much!!!

    • Tatia on October 27, 2022 at 5:03 pm

      My Pleasure 🙂

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