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SPEAKING YOUR FEELINGS

“Your response makes you attractive. Its tenderness . . . irresistible.”

MY APPROACH TO FEELING MESSAGES

Knowing What You Feel

Speaking genuinely comes from knowing your feelings.

Knowing your feelings helps you stay in your Feminine Power.

And Being in your Feminine Power naturally makes you Irresistible!

A man can sense your genuineness when you speak your true feelings, and your words draw him in closer so he can experience more of your femininity.

Your feelings are the common thread that binds all of the different aspects of your Feminine Power together.

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SPEAKING YOUR FEELINGS

Here's a quick start to speaking your feeling:

Start somewhere deep in your chest, or in your stomach or in your pelvis . . . start where you’re feeling stuff . . . and you’re feeling a lot of stuff!

Feel everything going on inside of you, find a feeling that feels good to say (this may take some practice), and then feel the feeling that’s
dominating at the moment.

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“An easy way to approach recognizing all of your feelings at a given
moment is to imagine a stewing pot . . .

Remember, the old fashioned cast iron pots with the heavy cast iron lids?

Imagine that you’re making a stew or soup inside of this stewing pot, full of fresh vegetables, herbs, spices, meat with a few
potatoes or a little rice.

Now imagine this stewing pot has all of your feelings in it – angry, sad,
mad, glad, happy, curious, wonderful and more.

All of the ingredients are your feelings.

When you spoon out a bit of the stew or soup, you get more than one
ingredient, right?

This is identifying the mixture of your feelings at a given moment.

The best way to do this is to slow down and experience each moment at a time.

Meaning that you focus and observe your environment, your body, your breathing (not your thoughts) and feel exactly what you’re feeling.

Examine each feeling and go a little deeper each time.”

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It’s important to NOT be in a rush, because you want to search your
feelings . . .

You want to go through the process of going deeper to find the mixture of
feelings you’re experiencing at that moment.

Take your time with this. Practice it. You’ll find that you feel more
comfortable and it gets easier the more you practice.

And be sure to write down the feelings you come up with.

Soon, you’ll start to notice changes:

You’ll begin to see a pattern of feeling words that feel right to you,

You’ll become more comfortable finding your feelings, and

You’ll know where in your body those deeper feelings are holding up.

(mine are often in my shoulders, the back of my neck and down my spine to
my stomach).

Practice this and let me know how it works for you!

 

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Being In Your Genuine

How this tool works:

1. Sit quietly and reflect on what you’re feeling.

2. Feel all of your feelings in that moment.

3. Be honest with yourself about what you’re truly experiencing inside of
you.

4. Feel where in your body you’re feeling it.

5. Say out loud everything you’re feeling and where in your body you feel it.

6. Practice doing this tool when you’re with or talking to a man, telling him how you feel and where you feel it or what it feels like.

A beautiful thing happens when you feel your true feelings and speak from those feelings . . . you begin to GENUINELY interact with others based on your Feelings.

Even more beautiful is the fact that a man can sense your genuineness when
you speak your true feelings.

YES, being in your genuine draws a man closer to you!

By Speaking Your True Feelings a man hears your genuineness in your words,
and he wants to experience more of your femininity.

Let me put this another way . . . Speaking genuinely comes from knowing your feelings.

Knowing your feelings is the basis of each step of reconnecting with your Feminine Power.

And Being in your Feminine Power naturally makes you irresistible to a man!

Do you remember the steps from my Free Report?

1. Feel Your Power, exist in it and experience it.
2. Embrace your Vulnerability.
3. Understand the Connection of Feminine with Masculine.
4. Awareness of when you’re in your Feminine Power and when you’re not.
5. Build on your Inner Strength.
6. Tap in to your Tenderness.
7. Utilize Opportunity.

Your feelings are the common thread that binds all of the aspects of your
Feminine Power together!

This means that every part of being in your
Feminine Power is guided by your feelings.

So, it’s really important . . .

That you feel your feelings and practice using them to guide your words
and actions . . .

That you continually work towards your words and actions reflecting your
true feelings . . .

This is Being In Your Genuine!

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU’RE BEING IN YOUR GENUINE AND DOING THIS TOOL THE
RIGHT WAY?

(1) It becomes easier to keep your focus on you rather than a man or a
situation;

(2) It becomes easier to stick to the Don’t Do List;

(3) You stay in tune with whether or not you’re leaning back and staying
in your Feminine Power;

(4) You feel what’s going on inside of you – and you realize what you feel
in response to what a man says, does or doesn’t do.

Practice this tool and see if you feel the difference, and notice a change
in a man’s response to you.

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Feeling Message Exercise

Scenario

Let’s say you’re really pissed off at a man for something he didn’t do
. . . and you can’t even manage a smile . . .

Try This
Still Upset?

Scripting 101 Part 4

Scripting 101

Poetry Words


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Focus On You

Write down your feeling message response based on how you feel looking at
the butterfly above.

Here’s where I feel my poetry:
I feel my poetry in my chest. It’s a warm bronze, shining in the setting
sun, like a fragrant candle-lit bubble bath.

Here’s my description:
To me, the butterfly looks majestic and poised to let the wind under her
wings.

Here’s my feeling message:
I feel breezy and open like a deep breath filling my chest with warm air.
I feel light and rising.

Do you think that this feeling message would get a man’s attention?
You can share and practice your butterfly feeling messages Here.

Scripting
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Scripting 101 Part 4

Speaking your power

This is speaking from your feminine.

It’s using feeling message to say what doesn’t feel good.

The power in this is to express what doesn’t feel good while still keeping the connection between you and a man undisturbed (i.e., not pushing him away or Leaning Forward).

 

WRITING YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT A “PROBLEM”

Scripting is when we write out the feeling messages we’re going to say to a man when we feel the need to have a particular conversation with him.

It’s important to remember that your feelings CHANGE from moment to moment, so you need to delve into the possible range of feelings you may have in the situation you’re scripting for.

So it’s very important to process your feelings when you’re writing a script . . . you want to use your TRUE feelings.

You want to be authentic, and you also want to find the words that “work” for you.

This is where creativity and being poetic play a big role in your Feminine Power.

I invite you to make a list of words that describe your feelings and that feel natural to you when you say them.

Oh, and sometimes you’ve got to practice saying something a few times (in the mirror) before it feels “natural” for you.

 

 

WRITING YOUR SCRIPT

Now we’re going to address how to approach the “problem” that you want to discuss with him.

In a previous example, we started with the scenario that you were really upset with a man for something he didn’t do.

You wanted to talk to him, but you want to use feeling messages, so that you’re speaking from your feminine power, instead of leaning forward and speaking to him from a masculine or needy place.

We practiced starting off with a feeling message and speaking of a good feeling first.

Now let’s address the not so good feeling.

Try this:

I’m feeling a little torn right now. I feel so good being here with you, and I’m still feeling ignored. Is now a good time to talk about it?
(Notice, you’re not characterizing the issue, you’re describing your
feelings!)

If he says “No,” then say “when is a good time for us to sit down and talk about it?” (Remember the Don’t Do List)

If he says “yes, let’s talk about it now,” then remember to:

1. Stay in your feelings in the moment (and not in your head);
2. Speak your feelings rather than the facts;
3. Give context about what you’re talking about (make it brief and sweet);
4. Stick to the Don’t Do List; and
5. Stay open, inviting and warm – don’t shut down.

Now that you’re leaning back into your Feminine Power, write your feeling words into a script.

End each of your feeling messages with “what do you think,” or “is there something I should know,” or “what can we do to fix this?”

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NOTE
You may need to break down your script into small segments (rounds), so that you’re saying one or two feelings at a time, giving him a chance to respond.

Remember, These are called rounds.

You end each round with “what do you think,” or “is there something I should know,” or “what can we do to fix this.”

Then, after he responds to you, say your next feeling message to him.

Your Mixture of Feelings

Remember:

(1) At any given moment there’s a mixture of feelings going on inside of you; start somewhere deep in your chest, or in your stomach or in your pelvis . . . you start where you’re feeling stuff . . . and you’re feeling a lot of stuff!

Feel everything going on inside of you, find a feeling that feels good to say (this may take some practice), and then feel the feeling that’s
dominating at the moment.

An easy way to approach recognizing all of your feelings at a given moment is to imagine a stewing pot that has all of your feelings in it – angry, sad, mad, glad, happy, curious, wonderful and more.

All of the ingredients are your feelings. When you spoon out a bit of the stew or soup, you get more than one ingredient, right? Spooning out your feelings is like slowing down and experiencing each moment at a time.

 

(2) Being In Your Genuine is about sitting quietly and reflecting on
what you’re feeling, and being honest with yourself about what you’re truly experiencing inside of you.

Feel where in your body you’re feeling it.

Practice doing this tool when you’re with or talking to a man, telling him how you feel and where you feel it or what it feels like.

 

(3) In order to script a feeling message, you’ve got to practice putting your feelings to words.

 

(4) Speaking your truth doesn’t have to be ugly.

Words Reflect Truth

This is what you need to do – don’t focus on your thoughts – instead, focus on your feelings:

Feel something good from the day and write it down and describe how it made you feel; start your first sentence with

“I felt _________ when _______,”

describing the feeling and what it was that caused you to feel it.

It’s important that you feel your feelings and practice using them to guide you – continually working towards your words and actions reflecting your true feelings.

Knowing your true feelings, you’ll be able to script out your words and speak to a man while staying in your Feminine Power.

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HOW I STARTED SCRIPTING . . . 

I could give you words for miles, but I could not tell you how I felt.

Even in romantic settings I didn't know how to say what I felt.

So I know how you feel when you sit down to write a "script" . . .

Don't Worry
Don't Give Up
Keep At It!

A RECAP ON SCRIPTING YOUR FEELING MESSAGES

4 Comments

  1. Jay on March 9, 2020 at 6:18 am

    You are amazing thank you so much!

    • Tatia on March 23, 2020 at 5:54 pm

      Always, my pleasure!

  2. Lisa on August 20, 2023 at 2:54 pm

    Does this apply to texts as well??? My boyfriend broke up with me very suddenly and doesn’t seem to know why but we live together so I left for a long weekend with intentions of no contact. While gone, he sent me a few texts asking if he can do things for me such as can he get me anything at the store, can he prepare meal for me, that he’s going golfing and asking when I’m coming home, etc and it’s left me dumbfounded as to how to respond to it all in my feminine.

    • Tatia on August 25, 2023 at 5:43 pm

      Hi Lisa:

      Yes, it applies to text messages as well . . . and in this instance, you want to keep your text responses extremely short. A “Yes, thank you” is a perfect response. I would not suggest expressing any feeling messages until you are feeling more grounded.

      GETTING GROUNDED
      1. Keep in touch with your boundaries (and honor them).
      – What does not-being-in-a-relationship with him look like to you? For example, can you sleep with him and still be not-in-a-relationship with him?

      2. This is a time to go inward, feel out your wants and don’t wants, get grounded again into your feminine energy (as a woman not in a relationship) AND THEN ease your way into using feeling messages with him.

      Why? Because you want to be genuine! Right know, you are still reeling from his confusing break-up Mr. Nice guy situation.

      It understandable if you’re experiencing multiple feelings inside. Process whatever it is you feel and get beneath those feelings. Roll with whatever it is (mourning, regret, anger, hurt, etc.) and then shift your focus to what feels good and/or go do something that you enjoy.

      This is the process of getting grounded into your true feelings and then expressing yourself from a more feminine place.

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