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This Is About Dealing With Loss In Life & Relationships.

 

I unexpectedly had to put one of my two cats to sleep last night.
I rushed her to the vet hospital in the rain last night and held her for as long as I could.
It was one of the hardest things I had to do.
Since I walked out of the vet hospital late last night, I’ve been in a blur.
I find that crying makes me feel better (even though I end up with a headache each time).
I still feel awful.
And I feel sad.
I’m dealing with a loss.
Loss is something we experience in both life and relationship situations. It’s Universal.

I remembered feeling losses in the past, including relationships, and thought I would share this post, in case someone else is going through a loss and needs to read about what helps.

There are various feelings that you experience when dealing with a loss and it’s important to remember that not everyone feels and experiences the same thing.

Regardless to whether it’s

– yearning for a lost relationship

– divorce

– break-up

– loss of employment

– loss of a home

– victim of a violent crime

– survivor of a catastrophe

– or bereavement

YOU NEED TO FEEL YOUR FEELINGS!

While each experience of loss is personal, it’s OKAY to feel what you’re feeling – and please, DON’T listen to anyone who says you shouldn’t feel anything you’re experiencing.

Here are some of the feelings you may experience:

Denial

Shock

Numbness

Isolation

Yearning

Anger

Despair

Bargaining

Disorganization

Depression

Reorganized Behavior

Acceptance

Some people get “stuck” in one feeling, some people experience just some of the feelings, and others experience all of the feelings listed above. 

When you find yourself facing a loss . . .

(1) It’s very important to be aware of:

– Avoiding or Minimizing your feelings

– Using or abusing drugs and/or alcohol

– Compulsive behavior

– Overworking

(2) Take Care of Yourself:

FEEL YOUR FEELINGS

EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS BY WRITING IN A JOURNAL, BLOG OR LETTERS

GO AHEAD AND CRY – IT’S A FORM OF RELEASE

TALK TO A CLOSE FRIEND OR RELATIVE ABOUT IT

ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL AND ACCEPT BOTH NEGATIVE AND POSITIVE FEELINGS

EAT NUTRITIOUS FOOD

GET SOME EXERCISE

GET EXTRA SLEEP

SOCIALIZE WITH OTHERS

VOLUNTEER

DO SOMETHING YOU ENJOY

 

(3) Reaching Out For Help:

– Find a group that holds meetings on the type of loss you’ve experienced

– Seek professional help if you’re overwhelmed by your feelings

 

Love,

Tatia

 

♥ 
 

 

6 Comments

  1. joss on September 18, 2014 at 12:10 am

    im so happy i found your page.
    sorry for your loss
    hugs to your heart

    • Tatia on September 18, 2014 at 3:02 pm

      Hi Joss:

      I’m glad you found my page. I’m here to help you and there’s a lot of information for you to use on my page. If at any time you have a question, please don’t hesitate to post a comment or contact me.
      Thank you for your hug 🙂

      Love,

      Tatia

  2. Natalina on September 18, 2014 at 1:16 pm

    Oh Tatia,

    I see how much you lean on all of that selfcare- like when we were talking about getting your hair done, and what a difference it makes.

    I agree that grief and processing pain, even in a baby fresh relationship that didnt make it through the night… all of that is just part of the journey.

    thank you so much for opening yourself up and sharing.

    Love you!!!
    Natalina

    • Tatia on September 18, 2014 at 2:06 pm

      Hi Natalina!

      Yes, the self care pulls us through in those kinds of moments 🙂
      I felt the pain of my loss and thought “this hurts” and this feeling comes up in different circumstances . . . it is indeed universal.

      Love you honey!!

      Tatia

  3. Dominique on September 25, 2014 at 9:06 pm

    I feel you sweetheart. Losing a beloved pet feels SO painful, so difficult, in some ways more so then a beloved human
    because their love is so pure, joyful, honest. I lost my two babies within a few months of each other, and even though
    they both lived long, happy lives (20 and 21 years old), this didn’t ease the feelings of pain and loss.

    I wish I had seen this sooner my friend.

    Much love to you. xxoo

    • Tatia on September 25, 2014 at 9:46 pm

      Thank you Dominique. It’s been a rough process and I’m working my way through in baby steps. I feel so warmed by your kind words and support! Thank you again and love love love you.

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