How to Lean Back in Dating and Relationships

Have you ever experienced this . . .

You’ve had a wonderful time together.

There was intimacy or a closeness that felt wonderful.

And just when you expect a continuation of that feeling . . .

He pulls away,

He doesn’t call,

He doesn’t come by,

He becomes busy,

He makes plans without you or,

He withdraws into another place or room.

It’s been called “rubber-banding,” “man-caving” or “disappearing.”

There’s no way to completely avoid it or stop him from doing it.

This is simply how some men function.

For some women, this is beyond confusing . . . it’s infuriating.

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Unfortunately, in response, a woman may try to reestablish the closeness by clinging, calling, whining, complaining and sometimes in anger start an argument or even worse confront him.

These are all “leaning forward” responses that push him away.
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Wouldn’t it feel great to avoid the bad feelings and masculine responses?

Wouldn’t it feel cozy to pick right back up with the closeness and intimacy you experienced before he pulled away?

Well you can!

The secret is to LEAN BACK.


Here’s how to get started Leaning Back right now:

1. Don’t take it personally – it’s not about you (it’s his issue).

2. Some men handle continuous closeness this way. So consider your needs and keep your options open if this behavior just doesn’t work for you.

3. Some men genuinely need time to unplug, regroup or regenerate romantically. So allow him to create this space, but express how it feels to you.

The key is to realize that when and if a man behaves this way, you can’t control him.

This is when Leaning Back benefits you (and your relationship) the most.


Allow him to create that distance.

Remember, distance works in your favor as along as you remain soft and warm when he approaches you again.

If he doesn’t call, don’t call him.

If he doesn’t text, don’t text him.

If he makes plans without you, make sure you’re keeping your own schedule and make plans of your own.

Allow him the space he’s created. Don’t invade it.


And PLEASE, don’t sit around waiting for him to call, text, come by or make plans with you!

Do your own thing and let him catch up with you.

After Leaning Back, you should notice a slight difference. His pulling away won’t feel the same.

If he still pulls away, you won’t focus on him as much.

You’ll do the things you enjoy instead of focusing on the distance he’s created.

You’ll let him deal with the distance he’s created.

You may take that time to go out with friends, visit family or get a little extra “me time.”

You’ll begin to occupy your time doing things you enjoy. Going places without him.

You may try out a new gym or coffee shop, explore a new restaurant, check out the mall or take a dance class or a new fitness class.

You may even decide that no matter how rational I’m trying to explain this, his behavior doesn’t work for you and your needs require a man with a different kind of behavior. That your time is valuable and you don’t have to chase after him or stop your life and wait for him to reappear.  You may even reassess your dating/love opportunities.

His man caving, rubber banding and disappearing may even give another man the opportunity to approach you for a conversation or a date.

If your man creates too much distance too often, in Leaning Back, you’ll naturally start to notice your other options.

Eventually, he may catch on that you’re not waiting around for him.

This is how Leaning Back works.




Leaning Back is just as important if you’re not dating or not currently seeing anyone

– watch the Introduction Video (below) to learn how to use the Handbook if you’re single:

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