Loving The Toxic Man

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Loving the toxic man

Do you find yourself feeling miserable or unhappy . . . but you can’t imaging yourself without him?

Do you find yourself trying to please him or keep his attention . . . even though he doesn’t treat you the same way?

I totally understand.  I’ve been there before.

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You feel like he’s the most important thing (even though deep inside you know better).

You feel like you’ve lost yourself in this relationship.

You feel like something is “off” in your life.

You feel like something is wrong in your heart.

You feel like it’s becoming a hopeless situation.

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Loving a toxic man can make you question yourself.

Loving a toxic man can eat away at your self confidence.

Loving a toxic man can make you want to “fix” things.

Or to fix him.

 

You want to make this relationships work

But you also want more . . . You want to feel loved and desired

You want to have the kind of love life that makes you feel happy.

 

This vlog post isn’t about “fixing” your Toxic Man.

It’s about detoxifying your love.

It’s about fixing you.

The Fixing Starts In The Following Five Steps:

Step One
OBSERVE YOUR MAN
When I refer to a man as Toxic, Difficult, Clueless Or Good, I’m not using these labels to conjure up images of a villain or a hero.

The Four Types Of Men topic is about understanding the connection between you and a man.  It’s an approach of seeing patterns that draw us in when we lose the focus on ourselves.  It helps us separate ourselves from him and see our stuff for what it is and at the same time, identify what’s specifically his individual situation.

 

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. . . A GOOD TYPE OF MAN
The Good type is just what he sounds like!
He knows how to treat you, how to pursue you and “just knows” what to do.
He comes in all shapes, sizes, colors and flavors . . . all you have to do is choose!

. . . A CLUELESS TYPE OF MAN
The Clueless type is basically a Good type but he doesn’t know exactly what to do or how to treat you . . . he’s a work in progress and may be worth consideration.

. . . A DIFFICULT TYPE OF MAN
The Difficult type is a bit different.
He may know what to do, and how to treat you, but he doesn’t necessarily treat you well consistently (if at all).
The Difficult type can have issues and drama in his life.
He could be addicted to substances, alcohol, gambling or recovering.
He could have a history of emotional or behavioral problems.
This man has things to work out for himself, and none of it is your problem (making it your problem is beginning of co-dependency).

. . . A TOXIC TYPE OF MAN
The Toxic type knows exactly what he’s doing, means to do it and doesn’t mean you or himself any good.
This type often dwells in a co-dependent relationship.
The Toxic type is easy to recognize – it can be apparent in an abusive personality, in manipulative behavior and degrading speech.
The main feeling you have with this type of man is that something doesn’t feel right.

 

Step Two
DON’T FOCUS ON HIM ANYMORE
Take a step back from him and your relationship.
Start to do the things that will make you feel good.
Take care of yourself – do things that you enjoy.
Take your focus off of him and off of the relationship and focus on yourself.

Step Three
LOOK AT YOUR SITUATION WITHOUT BLAMING HIM
Do you know what you want in a love relationship?
Can you image what it would feel like to have the kind of love you want?
Take a moment and write down what you want it to feel like having the kind of love you want.
Now make a list of what you need in a love relationship.
Is your man meeting your love needs?  Is he capable of meeting your love needs?
This isn’t about blame, it’s about knowing that you deserve the kind of love that you want.

Step Four
NOW, GO DEEPER – GO INWARD
Take a step back from it all.
Go inward and feel your way through what you’re experiencing in this relationship.
Take notice of your feelings, your wants and your life desires.
Can you feel that you are the prize?
Can you feel that you deserve the love that you want?
Go deeper by being in the moment rather than thinking of the future or the past.
Go deeper by leaning back.
Go deeper by staying in touch with your feelings.
Go deeper by being open to receiving instead of initiating with your man.
Go deeper by embracing your feminine energy and circular dating yourself out in the world.

Step Five
TATIA’S UNDERSTANDING MEN YOUTUBE PLAYLIST

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Love,

Tatia

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 Comments

  1. Lauren on September 13, 2019 at 5:26 pm

    I appreciate this video on the toxic man. Leaning back a bit and putting the focus on what I need and how I want to live…

  2. Tatia on September 15, 2019 at 5:07 pm

    That is totally awesome Lauren!
    I loved reading your message!
    Here’s another post that may resonate with you (read the “pause” section)

    Love,

    Tatia

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