While preparing a blog and  newsletter on this topic, my research on the above questions was eye-opening. This is a HOT topic: man caves and rubber-band men.  I had to share the best quotes with you!



rubberband guy

"You are in a committed relationship. Everything is going fine. And then, all of a sudden, your man pulls away from the relationship. Then he comes back. Then he pulls away again. Which leaves you wondering what is going on! Ladies, your man is experiencing the "rubber band effect" of a relationship. Unfortunately, as crazy as it can make you feel to witness, it is normal for some men."  Ezine Article by Beverleigh H. Piepers


withdrawn man


"Just because a man withdraws does not mean he is withdrawing from you. First, I just wanted to express that when a man seeks solace or withdraws from a conversation, it probably has nothing to do with the beloved. It has more to do with the emotional intensity and confusion around emotions than with any particular person. It just takes men more time to integrate and understand the watery realm of emotions. And understanding emotions isn’t something that happens for us spontaneously in the midst of a heated discussion.  We need space and time to figure out what is happening, both within our own self and with our beloved." Elephant Journal Article by Keith Artisan



". . . the man cave is sometimes called “a manland, mantuary or manspace; … a specially equipped garage, spare bedroom, media room, den, or basement. …’where guys can do as they please’ without fear of upsetting any female sensibility about house decor or design.” Powertochange.com (by Michael Jantzen)

"We women want to be building relationship all the time, though we may long for time to ourselves, especially when the kids are little. But men often want to hibernate by themselves, too, and even with other guys, far more than we want to go out with the girls. So this can seem quite threatening. Am I not enough?" (from tolovehonorandvacuum.com "husband-need-man-cave/").
man cave sports


“The cave is critical for men,” explains Mitzi Gold, a clinical psychologist and social worker, and director of the Mars & Venus Counseling Center of Honolulu. “The cave is a place where a man likes to go to relieve stress. Men all around the planet are doing this. They need it. It’s part of their cycle.”  Gold says this is extremely important for a woman to understand. “Men need to work off the stress they experience in their life,” she explains.  Midweek.com


man cave napper


". . . To prevent losing themselves, and to preserve the relationship, men have to take occasional breaks from in-depth intimacy. . ."  Love Your Love-Life

disappearing man

"After experiencing the closeness and intimacy of a partnership, the “we” state, men need to regain their sense of self with the “me” state. After that relationship pause he is ready to experience more intimacy. For most men, intimacy is like an all-you-can-eat buffet. They experience it, enjoy it and then become full. They need time and space to feel hungry again." By John Gray, Ph.D on Lovegevity


man cave pillow

"When your man seems withdrawn, far away, distant, somewhere else, and you feel yourself falling into fear, panic, distress, try to remember that we all need some inner time. And in the meantime, go take care of you as best as you can; fill yourself up with anything that feels good, if only a little, and maybe most importantly, summon up recent memories when you felt connected to him, loving and in love, close. THIS IS YOUR TRUTH." ~ Dominique  www.SexandHeart