The Married Woman's Guide To Dating Your Husband

You can't change a man . . . but it is possible to inspire him to change.

This inspiration can only happen when he experiences your genuine feminine energy (rather than your masculine energy).

It's important to remember that when you want a situation to change, you begin the process by changing yourself.

The change you're going to work on is shifting to a more feminine energy existence in your marriage (and life).

This new femininity practice will impact how you interact with your husband . . . in words, actions and thoughts (beliefs).

Your feminine energy involves feeling, being, receiving creativity and expressing yourself.

If you're feeling disconnected from your feminine energy, then it's important to spend time enhancing and reconnecting to it.

 

 

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Dating Your Husband

WEEK ONE

Answer the following question:

What do you want to happen?

Get clear about what you want.

Be honest about why this result is a "must happen" for you.

 

WEEK TWO

Answer the following question: What is your plan to make this happen?

Feel free to draw a road map in your journal, showing Point A (where you are now) and Point B (where you want to be) on the other side of the page.

Between Point A and Point B is where you'll list the steps that are necessary for you to take to get from where you are to where you want to be.

Once you've listed your steps, divide each one into smaller easier baby steps on a separate page.

 

WEEK THREE

Spend more time on your baby steps, breaking them down into easy do-able tasks.

Now, schedule at least one baby step into your calendar for next week.

 

WEEK FOUR

This is your first action week.  Adjust your schedule (if necessary) to ensure that you actually work on at least one baby step.

 

Additionally, please review and practice the following Rules for Dating Your Husband:

RULE #1 for Dating Your Husband

Adjusting Your Approach to Love . . .

Imagine a Queen ruling over her kingdom . . .
She's ready to work with her King instead of apart from him  . . .
How does the Queen begin this change?

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SHE PREPARES HERSELF TO GIVE AN AUDIENCE TO HER HUSBAND BY DECIDING WHAT CONNECTIONS SHE WANTS TO EXPERIENCE AS A QUEEN.

SHE REMEMBERS WHAT'S AT STAKE (HER VALUE/KINGDOM)

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YOU are that Queen!
(and you must always remember that being in your feminine energy requires a royal approach).

 

RULE #2 for Dating Your Husband

The key is to practice interacting from your Feminine Energy at home and out in the world.

Remember that you must maintain your high value as a feminine woman at all times!

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Think of it this way - you [the Queen] are at the center of a huge circle

- the circle includes the places you visit/travel to during the course of your daily, weekly, monthly and annual routines including virtual places on line ("out in the world")

- You are the target of the attention, curiosity, affection, love, respect, friendship, etc. of everyone who you interact with ("people noticing you")

- You accept invitations and opportunities to communicate with your husband where you are subtly flirting with him ("he uses the opportunity to show his interest in response to your flirting")

- You entertain segments of time together where you will be 100% in your feminine energy and flirting with him ("Date night or Date afternoon or Date morning")

- You invite him to experience intimate moments together [not necessarily sex] ("Getting Closer")

Circle of Interaction

OUTER LEVEL (white): Interacting With People Out In The World

BLUE INNER LEVEL: Interacting With People Who Notice You (especially your Husband)

GREEN INNER LEVEL: Interacting and lightly flirting with your Husband

ORANGE INNER LEVEL: Spending Scheduled Dating Time together

RED INNER LEVEL: Intimacy and/or time getting closer

 

RULE #3 for Dating Your Husband

Experience and practice your feminine energy in his presence.

Which of the following words speak the strongest to your feminine energy?

i am authentic

 

The feminine energy word (or words) you chose is like your feminine "theme music" that's constantly playing in the background of your mind.

Allow your word(s) to gently redirect your thoughts from any masculine energy back to your feminine energy.

You want to stay in your feminine energy so that he'll continuously feel drawn to you and want to keep a connection with you.

 

HERE'S HOW YOU WOULD INTERACTING FROM YOUR FEMININE AT EACH LEVEL OF INTERACTION:

OUTER LEVEL (white): Interacting people out in the world

This most outer level of of the circle involves people you see in your day-to-day experiences.  They are the folks at a restaurant, supermarket, department store, on your commute, gas station, coffee shop, medical office, school, church or at work.  This is the easiest time to practice being in your feminine with! You can practice smiling, and using poetry words .

 

BLUE INNER LEVEL: Interacting with people who notice you

At this level it's important to notice your Husband.  You can "notice" him by smiling and then going back to whatever you were doing, or you can practice holding eye contact for five seconds while you smile.

 

GREEN INNER LEVEL: Light Flirting With Him

Allow opportunities for your Husband to communicate with you to show his interest in response to your flirting with him.  Enjoy receiving his attention!  Remain curious about him (rather than thinking about any problems, judgments or existing arguments). 

 

ORANGE INNER LEVEL: Scheduled Date Time

There are numerous possibilities at this level.  Spending time together can happen at breakfast, in the evening, on the weekend or any other scheduled time.  The key is to dedicate the time even if it's just for an hour or a short walk after dinner. Here's where you really lean back!  You're practicing receiving & responding each time you spend this special time together.  Also be sure to regularly review your personal/relationship needs.

 

RED INNER LEVEL: Getting closer!

This inner most level is where you make time (or allow the opportunity) for holding hands, hugging, kissing, touching, cuddling or intercourse.  It's all about sharing intimacy.

 

RULE #4 for Dating Your Husband -

ONLY DO WHAT FEELS COMFORTABLE TO YOU.  Consider your boundaries

Notice whether you're feeling feminine or to the contrary . . .

Do you feel any masculinity oozing out of you during your interactions with your Husband?

Take this week to adjust to this process and practice.

Feel your way through the interactions with him and don't rush this.

 

WEEK FIVE

This is your second action week.  Adjust your schedule (if necessary) to ensure that you actually work on at least one baby step.

Also, please continue to practice Rules 1-4 from last week and enhance them with the additional baby steps of Rule 5 below:

RULE #5 - Enhancements for Dating Your Husband

 

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step One

EHANCING YOUR DATING TIME TOGETHER
(Despite the Problems in the Marriage)

So start within gauging where you are on the scale of how feminine you want to be in your daily life.

Be honest with yourself about this (some women don't want to be feminine . . . they just want a magic attraction switch to turn on off when it suits them).

Your goal is to understand the difference between how your masculine energy impacts your Husband compared to how your feminine energy impacts him.

You'll spend your dating time together 100% in your feminine energy.

This does not require anything fancy or expensive . . . It could be a special meal that you're making/having or it could be sharing popcorn while you watch the news or a movie.

You could sit down and have a cup of coffee, tea, water, wine (whatever) together for 1/2 and hour.

What makes it dating time is that you make a ritual of creating an opportunity to spend time together (and you're 100% in your feminine energy during the date).  It can be monthly or weekly.

You'll use this dating time to enjoy his company without judging him or wishing he would change . . . when you're spending this time with him, just accept him for who he is, and how he is.

Listen to him and hear his truth, even if it hurts.  Push away any anticipation or expectations.

You're giving him positive energy during these date night.

 

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step Two

BE YOUR BEST SELF
(Confidence is alluring)

No need to go shopping for a new wardrobe!  This step is easy:

Go in your closet and put together your best outfit (don't forget your accessories).

These are the clothes that you look and feel your best in!

Use one of these outfits for your dating time.

Get dressed, style your hair and make sure your nails/makeup are done (however you "clean up" nice).

 

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step Three

YOU ARE COMPLETE
(Living a whole life)

Avoid being clingy, problematic, or a walking go-fund-me account.

Take good care of yourself  . . . body mind and soul. 

Manage your affairs (or get volunteer or professional assistance). A relationship will never solve your problems.

Note: this is not a one-time quick fix.
Taking care of yourself (and your obligations) is a life long process.

Make a plan of what you want to improve,
list out what's required to achieve it
and then take action.

This way, no matter what your situation is, your story is not a "tale of woe,"
but instead, you portray a self image of feminine confidence and progress.

 

 

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step Four

MAINTAIN YOUR BASE
(Being a High Value Woman)

You've seen it/done it before . . . a woman can easily lose focus of her friends, family, hobbies and schedule when she's swept up in marriage difficulties.

While embracing being a couple and enjoying your integrated lifestyle, please remember never to abandon

  • Doing the things you most enjoy
  • Your "me time" necessities and
  • Rituals/gatherings/meet-ups with good friends/family

Be sure to schedule your dating activities into your life schedule - leaving some time to yourself to rejuvenate and maintain yourself.

 

 

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Rule # 5- Baby Step Five

DON'T RUSH THE PROGRESS

Enjoy dating but remember to always listen to your intuition.

Allow sufficient time to determine if the situation is improving and seek marriage counseling if it's not.

 

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step Six

CHECK OUT "THE MAN GUIDE"

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step Seven

PRACTICE THE "DON'T DO LIST"

feminine energy relationship don't do list

 

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step Eight

GET THE "7 STEPS OF BALANCE" E-Book

 

 

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Rule # 5 - Baby Step Nine

JOIN THE ACADEMY

 

 

 

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Rule # 5 - Step Ten - In Case of a Feminine Energy Emergency

SCHEDULE A COACHING SESSION

 

 

 

WEEK SIX

This week is all about celebrating your efforts!

Celebrate your new feminine energy practices also!

Your celebration could involve taking a leisurely coffee break, a soothing bath/shower, or anything else you would enjoy.

 

WEEK SEVEN

For this entire week, you're going to take time for reflection.

Review your journey from the first week until now.

Answer the following questions in journal:

What did you do differently than in the past?

How did it feel?

Journal about your feminine experiences.

 

WEEK EIGHT

Moving further along your Road Map (or adjusting it), spend this week contemplating what are your next set of baby steps are.

Revisit your what's between point A and point B.

This entire exercise is more about you than it is about him - because YOU are changing you and reconnecting to your feminine.  He's experiencing the benefits, but the change is within you.

Let your new feminine lifestyle inspire him.

 

THE FOLLOWING WEEK - BEGIN AGAIN WITH WEEK ONE

Continue working on your Road Map in eight week segments.