leaning back woman with her man embracing and Loving from the heart tony robbins romance quote

“When you are in the midst of deep love, when the world is filled with rainbows and butterflies, everything your partner does is right. This is where the term “Love is blind” comes from — you are “blinded” by love and cannot see any of your lover’s flaws.  In this heightened state of attraction, we tend to give our partners more leeway. There’s more space for them to make mistakes because the rules we have created within the relationships are different, and we have fewer of them. And in many cases, you don’t have any rules — you’re just thrilled to be in the same room with them, to have the opportunity to make them happy.”  Tony Robbins (on loving from the heart instead of from your head)



Recently, a male acquaintance wanted to know
why his wife craved romance so often and deeply.

After describing the importance of romance to him,
he then wanted to know what he could do to
make his wife understand that he wanted
to feel romance from her as well.

In considering how his wife could be romantic
(while leaning back),
I put together the following approach and helpful links:

leaning back woman how to be romantic with a man while still leaning back

Romance Is Necessary


leaning back woman sharing needed romance with her man

“Romance, we ladies need it. No matter how much we may protest that we don’t, we do, in one form or another. Why would you deny the need to feel special to the person you have decided to spend the rest of your life with? Isn’t feeling special and loved a huge part of being in a relationship in the first place? . . .  These men felt that romance differed from woman to woman and you have to be in tune with her specific language of love.”  The Good Men Project (describing the results of an interesting survey on men and women’s perception of romance)





Romance enhances a relationship.

It’s an expression of your feelings for someone.

It’s an indication that you want and desire someone.

More importantly, romance reaffirms the feelings between two people as their feelings grow and mature.


It’s Biological


feminine energy woman natrually in romance

“When you catch sight of your beloved and your heart starts racing, that’s because of an adrenaline rush, said Dr. Reginald Ho [a cardiac electrophysiologist and associate professor of medicine at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania] . . . The stress hormone cortisol has also been shown to have implications for love, Loving said. His lab showed study participants who had recently fallen in love a picture of a romantic partner or friend, and had them describe or “relive” the moment of falling in love or wanting to be friends, respectively. Those who recalled falling in love showed an increase in stress hormones such as cortisol even 30 minutes after they were asked to think about it. Generally, there are three brain systems involved in romantic love: sex drive, love and attachment, Fisher said. The sex drive evolved to get you to look for a lot of partners, the “love” portion is for focusing mating energy on one specific person at a time, and attachment is for allowing you to tolerate the partner — at least, long enough to have children with him or her . . .  Fisher’s team has found that romantic love doesn’t have to die — they found the same activity in the brains of people who said they were in love after 20 years of marriage as in people who had just fallen in love. This brain area makes dopamine and sends it to other areas.”  CNN (describing the hormones involved in love and romance)



For a woman, romance resides inside of you.

It starts with what you feel.

It’s both an awareness and a response.

It’s  a willingness to be open to your true feelings.

To keep experiencing romance, you must stay in touch with your feelings.

Keep feeling your feelings,

Keep expressing your feelings and

Stay ready and willing to connected.

Being aware of, receiving, appreciating and responding to his romantic words/gestures is how you stay romantic while leaning back.

Respond with awareness.

Respond with receiving (accepting).

Respond with  accepting.

Respond with words honoring the romantic feelings inside of you.


It’s Sensual


Leaning back feminine woman and sensuality

The key is sensuality . . .

Sensuality applies to all of us . . . it’s universal.  

Be sensual,

Be present, and

Be completely in your feelings when receiving and responding to a man’s approach to you.”  Power To Love Academy (brief portion of the webinar on maintaining a passionate connection)




The lack of romance can cause a feeling of yearning.

This stirring feeling is a desire for connection.

Connection is an integral part of romance and love.

Being open to connection helps maintain an emotional harmony in your relationship.

Emotional harmony is reached during shared moments.

Shared moments happen when you are together (or otherwise interacting).

Shared moments happen more easily when you remain open to connect.

So connection is a crucial for romance.


It’s Binding


feminine energy woman close and connected with her man quality time

“How many times can you go out to dinner and a movie? Not that there’s anything wrong with the quintessential date standard, but it gets boring after a while. Especially if you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, you’re probably running out of date ideas. You are still going on dates, right. Even long-term relationships need to go on a date occasionally.

So, for those of you who feel stuck in the “dating rut” here are some ideas to get you thinking.

1. Do a restaurant tour – Pick an area with a bunch of restaurants. Start with cocktails and appetizers at a restaurant with a bar or lounge, head somewhere different for the main course and finish up someplace else with fabulous desserts . . .”

50 Date Ideas For Couples (listing some unique approaches to spending quality romantic time together)





You may both be busy

or preoccupied

or tired

or stressed

or upset

but don’t let that strain your connection.

Don’t allow your daily life to block this connection.

Let romance flow between you whenever and however it happens.


It’s Influential


romance in your home

“Make your home a living affirmation of love and romance. Incorporate items or images that symbolize love to you. Maybe it is red roses, the color pink, or scented candles. You can also include mementos from romantic experiences . . . 

Surround yourself with images of people who accept and love you as you are. Only hang artwork or display images that you love. You can also put up your favorite photos of you and your love (if you have a romantic relationship) or pictures of happy couples . . .

Get rid of objects that other people gave you that you don’t love. Having objects around that you don’t love is clutter which results in stagnant energy. It is best to get rid of them. Read more about clutter control here. Avoid negative images, unfriendly stuff, or single items. Your home is a symbol of what you want to create. If you want loving, harmonious relationships, then you must get rid of negative images, “unfriendly” stuff like cactuses, or singular items …” Feng Shui & Beyond (see also Well+Good)




It’s important to maintain a romantic ambiance in your home.

While you’re not being romantic 24/7, your environment can keep a subtle romantic flow.

I would suggest starting this approach in baby steps.

Choose a room where you spend the most time together.

  • Clear any clutter from that room.
  • Beautify the room.
  • Remove electronics from the room (except for music).
  • Freshen the room and linens with soothing scents.
  • Burn candles and adjust the lighting to a softer glow.
  • Add pictures and other mementos that create warm memories.
  • Wear soft/silky lounge wear and appealing perfume.
  • Add any other enhancements that will appeal to the feelings as well as all of the senses.


Let me know how this works for you.

For more help on Leaning back while being romantic,

check out:

LEANING BACK – The Handbook

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Create a Safe Space for Him to Focus on You and the Relationship . . .

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