Telephone Love

ARE YOU AFRAID THAT IF YOU STOP SHOWING A MAN ATTENTION HE’LL LEAVE YOU?

Do you believe that if you don’t keep your “presence” around him, another woman will steal him away from you?

Are you concerned that if you don’t initiate contact, that he will think that you’re not interested in him?

Read on:

Coachtatia.  Reading your book and watching your videos has been very helpful.  My problem is that when I lean back and not initiate, he does not call me or come by to see me.  When I lean back he goes out with other women and says he thought I was not interested anymore.

When I lean forward and call him he stays on the phone with me for hours talking and telling me how much he feels for me.  He sometimes asks me to come spend the night with him.

 If I call him while I am out, he ask if he can come see me.  He shows up and hangs out for a little while.  

This has been our situation for two years.  He has not taken me to meet his friends or family but he does call me from his parents house while he is visiting and if I call him while he is with his friends he will answer his phone.

I am afraid that if I stop calling him he is going to leave me because he thinks I’m not interested any more.  This is frustrating.

What should I do?

Ms. Telephone Love

 



Dear Ms. Telephone Love:

Doesn’t something about this situations feel wrong to you?

Wouldn’t you prefer it if
he showered you with attention,
wanted to keep a presence around you and
initiated contact with you regularly?

DO YOU WANT A MAN WHO ACTIVELY SHOWS MORE LOVE AND INTEREST IN YOU?

The key is to receive and respond

You RECEIVE the kind of Love and attention you want from a man
and in return,
you RESPOND with the kind of love and attention he wants.

 

It’s an easy equation:
Receiving + Responding = His Emotional Attraction

 

A man who’s interested in you initiates contact and gives you attention =>
You receive this contact and attention (and you like it) =>
You respond using feminine words and actions expressing your pleasure, happiness and appreciation =>
He experiences your pleasure, happiness and appreciation and WANTS MORE.

YES, YOU READ THAT RIGHT . . .
By responding in a feminine way to the attention, love and affection a man gives to you
You’re letting him know that you appreciate that he makes you feel good and happy
FYI . . . A MAN WANTS TO EXPERIENCE THIS FROM YOU

 

But if this is not happening between you and this man, then it’s very likely that he’s not emotionally attracted to you and is accepting the convenience that you provide him with.

 

I would nevertheless suggest that you try the equation I noted above.

FIRST PART OF THE EQUATION IS

THE MAN

What you’re receiving can really depend on the kind of man you’re dealing with.  If he’s not showing his interest in you, or he only shows interest to a small degree, then you need to ask yourself if this is the type of treatment you want to receive from a man?  Consider and write down what type of treatment you want to receive from a man in a relationship.

 

THE SECOND PART OF THE EQUATION IS

YOUR MASCULINE HABITS

Responding is nearly impossibly if you’re initiating and pursuing.  These are masculine habits.

And in some ways it’s hard to change these habits because
(1) they’re things we were taught as girls, and
(2) they’re behaviors that some men prefer.

BUT THESE MASCULINE HABITS KEEP YOU FROM THE KIND OF LOVE THAT YOU WANT.

So Ms. Telephone Love –

First determine whether you’re wanting something from this man that he’s not capable of giving you.
Second, lean back, don’t initate and RESPOND to him when and if he does reach out to you.
If he disappears or gets involved with another woman
then you KNOW FOR SURE that he’s not emotionally attracted to you.

You can choose to resume your mascuilne habits with him,
or
embrace what you truly want from love by interacting with the type of man who IS emotionally attracted to you.
Click here to read more about moving on.

I’m sure it’s not what you hoped I would say, but it can help you understand what it is you honestly want to do.

 

Learn more leaning back practices with the HANDBOOK

Love,

Tatia

 
 

 
 

 

 

 


 

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