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Ms. Tatia = I’ve searched your entire site and found nothing about my current situation.  I am what some folks would call a side chick = seeing a man who is living with a woman BUT NOT MARRIED.  Your post about dating a married man was harsh imho = are you truly a coach for all woman or do you discriminate?  I would like some guidance on how to improve my relationship with him. We always go out on 2/15 and this time (since it’s a weekend) we are going away. I want his time with me to be memorable. Oh = I like my freedom right now so not looking for him to move in or commit to me right now.  I want to show him my best side = my feminine side.  Does your leaning back work for side chicks too?  Deb

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Hi Deb:

Thank you for your question.

My short answer is NO, I do not discriminate.

A longer (explain-y) answer is that Leaning Back and other Feminine Energy practices are for creating a long-term emotional connection with a man. Truth is, being a “side chick” is sharing a man (emotionally and otherwise).

While this post may trigger some readers who are involved with a man who is/suspected of cheating, I’ll do my best to honestly address your situation and give you the guidance you seek:

Your Best Approach to Man-sharing


I did a touch of research on the topic of side chicks and unmarried men and was faced with a bit of crude comments (I interviewed a few guys who agreed to contribute anonymously).

Here’s a meme one of guys shared with me that sums up the results of my research:
national side chick day february 15th
See what I mean by crude?

Since you differentiate that the man you’re involved with is not married, but only living with someone (his “main chick”?), the best example I can proceed with is ZIPCAR

man sharing is like car sharing for side chicks

– a car sharing service where no one member holds title to the car but can reserve at a time when no other members are using it. It appears that the available models for man-sharing are the Clueless, Difficult and Toxic types (I highly doubt a good type would engage in this type of sharing).

Man-sharing, like car-sharing, means that your connection (interaction) with him is short term.

There’s no possible longevity in this connection because he’s also connected to someone else.

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So, if I’m reading your situation correctly, then it’s my understanding that you don’t mind the short-term connections with him.

On the premise that you’re not seeking a long-term connection with him at this point (meaning this is a “for now” connection rather than a “forever” connection), then the top advice from the men interviewed is to:

1. Treat Him Gently – This means limiting your expectations of him

2. Let him know when he makes you happy

3. Live in the moment (no past/future thinking)

4. Follow the Don’t Do List (dude approved), and I recommend you

5. Get the HANDBOOK to learn more about Leaning Back

6. Check out the Following:






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  1. Shawna on June 4, 2024 at 10:31 am

    Billy and Shawna for life 🤣

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