Your Love Is Magic

All of the magic of love comes from within.

It’s a part of you.

You create it from deep in your heart ♥ and share it outward.

This sharing is often a misunderstood feeling . . .
Women sometimes mistake this inner loveliness
as something that comes from outside of us
from a man
from an event
from a thing
and this is how we give our power away

A subscriber asked a question about giving of herself.

She asked me to clarify why “Focusing on You” is not a selfish act.

This is the video that prompted her question:




Dear Tatia Dee:

I don’t agree with your ‘focus on you’ because it feels selfish.  Shouldnt I be giving to let a man know I love him?  To focus only on myself seems wrong.  But maybe this is why things are not working out for me because I dont get this part.  Ive been a giver all my life because I want to be blessed.  Yet every man Im with leaves me.  Could you explain why ‘focus on you” is not selfish and maybe help me resolve this issue within myself?  Sanja


Dear Sanja:

“Focusing on You” is about actively loving yourself first.

It’s about taking care of yourself, meeting your needs and treating yourself well.


Because you can’t share from an empty cup!

Sharing is what we do in our feminine energy.

We share by opening up and feeling our feelings and sharing those feelings with the world (not just a man) through our words and actions.

This is what is meant by “sharing your truth.”

Focusing on You is the solution to the problem so many women face of losing themselves in a man or relationship.

It’s not selfish to treat yourself good.

It’s not selfish to be the best you can be.

It’s not selfish to acknowledge the love in your heart for yourself and share that with the man in your life.

Love is about sharing, but instead we change that sharing into giving, giving, giving, and this PUSHES a man away!

Giving pushes against a man’s natural masculine inclination.

Sharing is different.

Sharing is about opening up and letting a man experience your truth.

This opening up is crucial because it’s the act of your being genuine.


This is how to do it:

Get into your feelings

  1. Respond (in words and actions) from the truth of what you feel
  2. Receive his words and actions
  3. Embrace how you feel in response to his words/actions
  4. Respond to him again

Now, in order to be genuine, you first need to KNOW your truth.

You need to understand your truth . . .

What makes you happy

What makes you feel good

What you desire

What your dreams are . . .

So ask yourself, how can you truly know any of this if you don’t first give yourself time and attention?

The answer to is love yourself first.

Always take care of yourself first because Love starts with you!






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